Apabila Abang membenci status FACEBOOK adiknya..

Kebiasaannya adik-beradik akan berang apabila ditegur dan dinasihati oleh abang sendiri..
Sebelum ini diri ini selalu sukar menerima teguran daripada abang sendiri..namun
kini..apabila selalu ditegur dan dimarahi..barulah saya sedar bahawa teguran,nasihat dan
sebab saya dimarahi abang adalah bukan disebabkan mereka tidak menyukai kita..
tapi sebaliknya..
Status saya yang selalu mengatakan tentang kelaparan di "facebook" menyebabkan mereka "tersentuh" dan
memikirkan yang saya update status itu adalah untuk memberitahu "dunia bahawa saya kurang diberi perhatian oleh ahli keluarga" hehee..
Tapi...Dalam fikiran saya mengatakan " waaaa..sungguh CARING/ mengambil berat ahli keluarga saya terhadap saya''
happy tapi..saya tahu mereka memikirkan sebaliknya :)
ada masa suatu hari nanti..saya akan bercakap di depan ahli keluarga saya ^^
untuk mengatakan "terima kasih kerana mangambil berat terhadap saya"
i'M sorry to make u all think and feel that way..:)

#FAMILY #LOVE #LIFE #HAPPY #SMILE

The EYE..
The SMILE..
She bring the light to my life..
Give me hapiness..and courageous..
Strength from the heart..
I  want to tell you..

I will love and stay with you..
In your happiness and sadness..

Boring moment..
Live beside you..
Every second...
you will be in my heart..

The only one..
Till the end of my life..

I LOVE YOU
#Ameilea #Meimei #Baobei #Nanak

MISKIN dan KAYA...


Hidup umpama roda yang bergolek,kadang-kadang kita di atas tetapi kita akan berada di bawah..
Manusia yang kaya dan hidup senang-lenang sememangnya selalu dikatakan sombong dan tamak..betul tidak? -saya kata tidak-
apapun...mengikut pengalaman saya, orang yang hidup kaya akan kelihatan tamak dan sombong jika diri kita/mentaliti kita sendiri yang beranggapan seperti itu..
Kita cuba untuk mengubah mentaliti kita..tukar sombong kepada kurang PERAMAH..
hahh!! kan baru betull..sememangnya kebanyakkan orang2 kaya ini sukar untuk bergaul dengan orang yang berkedudukan rendah...namun bukan semua orang la..
terdapat seorang kawan saya sendiri meluahkan perasaannya (private name) beliau telah mencuba untuk bergaul kepada kawan-kawan yang kurang berada namun adalah sukar baginya untuk terus bergaul dengan mereka kerana...mentaliti mereka kurang betul..
ahh...jika anda berada di tempat beliau, bukankah itu satu kesakitan??
Ada juga orang kaya yang dah tahu dirinya kaya..dan #Showoff lagi..
ini dah memang kena la..
tapi kesian bagi orang2 kaya yang sememangnya peramah tapi..disebabkan mentaliti orang2 tidak mempunyai sivik..semuanya akan kelihatan #sombong di mata kasar...

Hahhh!! yg kurang berada/miskin ni pula??
dah tahu dia sememangnya tidak ada kemampuan dalam harta benda...
tapi menambahkan lagi kekurangannya dengan berfikiran negatif...hmm...
lainlah kalau kita ni tahu yg mereka tu betul2 sombong...dan tamak..
bolehlah mengata..tapi kena ingat..DOSA tu..tetap dosa..

Sememangnya kita seharusnya hidup tanpa menilai manusia dari mata kasar...
Nilai dulu sebelum berkata dan berfikir sebelum menilai..seseorang..
faham?? kalau faham bagus la..

Tanpa si kaya..Si miskin pun tiada...
tapi...kita ini sama2 manusia..
kena beringat selalu tentang pegangan agama..

-peace-

Betapa kecewanya hati ini..
Ketika orang yang kita sukai,
Pada akhirnya tak bisa dimiliki.

Akan lebih kecewa lagi..
Ketika orang yang telah kita miliki,
Tanpa alasan yang pasti dia memilih pergi.

Jangan karena hal itu maka menjadikan diri kita terlalu larut dalam kesedihan.
Dan menjadikan diri kita terus tenggelam dalam Kekecewaan yang teramat sangat.

Ketika kita harus kehilangan seseorang yang kita sayangi...
Tak perlu kita terlalu meratapi kepergiannya,
Tak perlu kita terlalu menangisi kepergiannya,
Tak perlu kita terlalu membuang air mata,
Tak perlu kita sampai putus asa dibuatnya.

Karena sesungguhnya..

Dia pergi akan ada yang menggantikan
Dia pergi akan ada yang lebih baik lagi ^ ^
Dia pergi akan ada yang menguatkan hati
Dia pergi akan melatih kita bangkit kembali. :))

Kepergiannya bukanlah akhir dari segalanya.
Di depan sana masih terbentang luas..
Untuk kita raih dengan sebuah harapan.
Yakinlah suatu hari nanti Allah akan memberi ganti yang lebih baik..

Orang Bijak Berkata:
Kebahagiaan itu bukan karena DENGAN SIAPA kita hidup. Akan tetapi karena bagaimana kita MENJALANI & MENERIMA hidup dengan tulus dan ikhlas.

Itulah kebahagiaan yang sebenar-benarnya..

GIRL and WOMEN

Recently, I wrote a post on “The 11 Difference Between Dating a Boy vs a Man“. The post can have the genders swapped and most points would still apply. However, we can’t deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women – from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl, vs a woman. Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.

A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

8. A girl does not respect her body.  She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah

9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available…

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.

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"KASIH"

Salam ceria!!
kasih itu menceriakan..
kasih itu menggembirakan..
kasih itu tulus dan suci...
kasih itu menyatukan...
kasih itu indah...
kasih itu menguatkan..
kasih itu menggeratkan..

Kasih itu murah hati..

harapan saya...ayat ini boleh membawa kita kepada saling mengasihi antara satu sama yang lain...
tanpa mengira..agama dan kaum..:)

-Ben@Mamin-

<3 Baobei

KOPISANANGAN..topinai..

Hari ini saya berasa lega dan bebas daripada tekanan dan fikiran yang membelenggu hidupku..
my BLOG ni..seperti twitter/diari pulak kan...?? ehh...memang saya buat blog ni untuk memberitahu keadaan susah senang dalam hidupku..
meminta maaf daripada sahabat/rakan adalah satu kelegaan dalam hidupku..
walaupun saya tidak pasti bahawa...saya bersalah ataupun tidak..
apapun...memaafkan orang lain terlebih dahulu sebelum meminta maaf daripada oran adalah lebih baik..

THANKSSSS!! GOD!! for this moment..